Wednesday, 9 January 2019

January ramblings and that not so new me

This post is not quite your typical 'New Year, New Me', mostly because we're already half way through January, and secondly its more of a reflection on all the best bits of 2018 and seeing what has been achieved; as well as looking forward and seeing where I can continue to push myself in 2019, to progress towards who I know I can, and will, be.

At the age of 26 I feel as though there are many things I should have achieved by now - it feels like everyone around me is having children, buying homes, working in their dream careers and so much more. For me though, it's always been focusing on today and maybe planning a few trips away and holidays with family and friends to look forward to. There is always that thought in the back of my mind though that people around me are getting married and starting families, and yet here I am reading a book each night, texting the boyfriend in the other room because I can't be bothered to get up and leave the comfort of my sofa!

What 2018 has made me realise though, is that the only expectations you need to be reaching are your own. If you're happy and content with how your life is going, why change that? Why do we all have to reach the 'expected' milestones by a particular age just because everyone else is? - and that's exactly the mind set I'm going to go into 2019 with.  I'm going to be more relaxed and just work at my own pace, and stop comparing myself to other people, because at the end of the day, as long as you're happy that's all that matters.

Now, I don't know about you, but I always find writing positive things about myself rather tricky.  So I've set myself the challenge of writing down all the things in 2018 that: made me feel good about myself, I've gone out of my comfort zone with, and have made the best memories. These don't always have to be huge things, it could simply be spending more time with friends, or sticking to cooking more at home or wearing my hair different to how I used to. If it's made a difference to your year, then it counts as an achievement!

So here are my favourite moments and achievements of 2018:
  • Travelling for the first time in years, to Amsterdam
  • Booking another holiday to Barcelona, and truly pushing past my break on travelling
  • My house finally being decorated to feel like home 
  • Attending my first, and many other, blogging events over the last few months
  • Completing two qualifications in the workplace to continue progressing my career
  • Buying a new car, which is called 'Johnny', and whenever I see him I say 'Here's Johnny' in The Shining voice
  • My blog relaunched this year as 'With Love Alys'
  • Completed my first 5K run for charity
  • Met lots of my blogging friends in person, finally!

For 2019, I'm going to continue taking every day as it comes and continue not to put unnecessary pressures on myself to make 2019 the 'perfect' year. Instead, I'm going to focus on the smaller, more personal things that come to mind when I think of my future instead of pushing myself to reach particular milestones, because they will happen when they're meant to happen.

So here it is, my 2019 wish list:
  • Continue travelling and exploring more of the world, specifically Ireland, Scotland, Barcelona and hopefully Dubai and Nashville!
  • To begin and complete a CIM in Professional Marketing Level 4 qualification
  • Progress in my career in Marketing and Communications to a higher role
  • To adopt a dog from a shelter 
  • Begin doing volunteer work with homeless shelters 
  • Add another tattoo to the collection as my list of designs is getting too long!
  • To work with more brands and to expand my blog in more ways 
  • Finally stop drawing on my eyebrows and have them micro-bladed
  • Create a brand new skin care routine
  • Invest in a Olympus Pen to take on my road-trips and travels with me 
  • To continue taking part in raising money for charities
Although my wish list for 2019 doesn't include a whole lot right now, as time goes on more and more ideas will come to me on what I hope to achieve this year, and I will update accordingly and share with you all.

I would love to hear what your favourite memories of 2018 are and what you'e looking forward to most in 2019.

With love, Alys

Shop the outfit:
Coat: Pretty Little Thing
Jeans: Topshop
Shoes: Dorothy Perkins
Necklace: Dorothy Perkins
Top: Dorothy Perkins

*Photos taken by Leon Guest Photography


  1. I love this! I can't believe in this day we're still comparing to traditional standards. We have way more options now, nothing is a race and we all have our own goals. I love your goals for this year, especially getting a dog!I hope it all happens x


  2. Firstly - your photos are so beautiful and I love your outfit! Secondly, I absolutely love this post. It's so strange how we seem to put time limits on ourselves - I'm 30 this year and am panicking about what I haven't achieved instead of focusing on what I have. It sounds like you made big steps forward in 2018 and you should be so proud. 2019 looks very exciting too! I hope you have the best year and smash these goals. If you ever need any tips on where to go in Scotland let me know haha!
    Beth x Adventure & Anxiety

  3. Love this post. New year, but not new me. I'd love to visit amsterdam! Love that you called your care johnny, so funny! and congrats on the 5k, it's amazing!

  4. I could really relate to this post - so often we find ourselves comparing our own achievements with those around us and it's not healthy, and more importantly, we're all on our individual journeys. I feel like in your 20's ( I'm 22) there's so much of this and everyone goes at a different pace and like you said, being happy with your own life is whats most important. Contentment is key. Thanks for sharing! x

  5. This is lovely! I would love to visit Amsterdam and it's great that you got to visit there. I hope to raise more money for charities too..

  6. I'm definitely guilty of comparing myself to other people's timelines and you're right, there's no need and as long as you're happy with where you are and what you're doing to progress further then that's all that matters! Volunteering is one of my goals for 2019 too, I used to volunteer with Shelter and I loved it so really want to get back into it

  7. It sounds like you achieved a lot in 2018 and you've got such good goals for this year too. I get what you mean about comparing where you are to others lives and then stressing.

    for example, a girl i went to school with and now work with has her own house, is engaged, has a child and is pregnant again and i'm here like shall i go to nandos or pizza express for dinner ahaha

  8. First I would like to say as a mom of 3 at the age of 29. Take your time! I had my first when I was 29. I advise anyone to go live and enjoy life first. Kids can always come later. I'm so happy you got out of the traditional way of thinking. It doesn't matter what this person or that person is doing. Make life about you and what you want to do and when you want to do it. Hope you have a splendid 2019

  9. This is such a good post, and I love your goals, as well as how much you accomplished this year! I'm going to Amsterdam next month, was it good?

    Jas xx |

  10. I love your 2019 wishlist instead of resolutions! Maybe I need to make a 2019 wishlist!

  11. How beautiful was this and perfect timing for me! Alys such an inspiring and relatable post. I too have to stop comparing myself to others and their journeys. It seems like everyone around me has a job, married, blog domain, children, boyfriend, brand sponsorships, while I barely have money to buy a McDonald's sandwich. It just seems like my dreams are so far from me. But like you said everything will happen when the time is right. You just have to live life at your own pace and on your own time schedule. Just like you, I want to start living life at a slow pace and enjoy the moment, not put so much pressure on myself. This post made me feel a whole lot better. Thank you for sharing❤️😍

    Natonya |

  12. I'm like you Alys, I find writing down positive things about myself tricky, I never know what to say! Your 2019 wishlist sounds so much better than using the word resolutions! x

    Lucy |

  13. I love this! I feel as if so many of us put pressure on ourselves to achieve everything in such a short space of time, constantly comparing our own achievements to others. Couldn't agree more that we have to live our life at our own pace, what's the rush? Look forward to seeing what 2019 has in store for you with your new travelling ventures and the rest of your wishlist. Thanks for sharing xx

    Evie x |


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