Sunday, 1 July 2018

25 things I learnt to believe in at the age of 25


As the months go by I get that small step closer to the daunting age of 26 where you finally feel like you can no longer get away with the things you used to as a teenager. Adulthood is officially on my doorstep and do you know what, I think I'm okay with that.

The concept of change and growing into the person you are meant to be whilst trying to keep on top of work, a social life, commitments and blogging can often be daunting to people. In the past year I have accepted that insecurities need to be put aside and there is nothing wrong with fighting for what you believe in.  

As some may have seen in one of my previous posts I wrote a (very) long piece on learning to love yourself, which has been my main influence for today's post on sharing 25 things I learnt to believe in at the age of 25 with you. 


1. Embrace who you are and never shy away from that
2. True love - I'm a hopeless romantic 
3. Reeses chocolate will continue to be my guilty pleasure no matter how much I try to deny it
4. There will never be anything better than a good book
5. London is the best city
6. Its okay to accept compliments
7. Hard work is recognised and does pay off
8. To always give people compliments
9. Second chances are sometimes needed
10. Family is so important and to never take them for granted
11. Music will always put a smile on my face
12. To never be embarrassed if you're struggling, every day is a new day
13. You make your own destiny


14. Fewer close friends who support you are more precious that a large group you feel lost in
15. Everything happens in 3's
16. 10 Things I Hate About You will continue to be one one of the greatest movies ever made
17. To always thank those around you
18. Time is sometimes all you need to heal
19. Life's too short to be negative
20. Never give up if you fail, try, try and try again
21. The little things in life often make the biggest impact
22. Things will always get better when you feel they wont
23. Always trust your gut instinct
24. Always treat others the way you want to be treated
25. There will always be more stories to tell

These 25 things have taken so many years to develop and become a huge part of who I am and I wouldn't change a single thing as it's made me the person I am today.

Until next time.


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  1. Love this post! I agree that London is the best city (even though I'm from London, so I'm a bit biased haha) and no. 14 is definitely something I've realised during my life as a 17 year old.
    Hope you have a nice birthday when they day comes :))

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  2. This is such a great post Alys! I love your list, it’s so positive and inspirational. I agree, life is too short to be negative and music always makes me smile too. Thank you for sharing this wonderful list! <3 xx

    Bexa | www.hellobexa.com

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    1. So glad you enjoyed it, I hope others will be inspired to think more about what inspires them in life and focus on the good rather than the negative!

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  3. I adore this post! I 100% agree with them all especially 10 things I hate about you film (one of my favourites) and the one about second chances has really applied to me sometimes you just have to try and see how it goes. Great post x

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    1. It's a classic film isn't it, doesn't matter how many times you watch it, it will never get old!

      Thank you for reading (:

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  4. This is a really great post! When I turned 21 I thought everything would change but now I’m getting older I realise you learn so much in your twenties! I always say that life’s too short for negativity it’s such a great saying and lifts me when I’m in a bad mood! Xx

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    1. It's so strange isn't it, that just a few years into your 20's you really start to see things in different perspectives!

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  5. Even though I am from the US, I'd have to agree that London is the best city. I went there two months ago and spent just shy of two weeks there and I couldn't have been more in love. Tis a bit chilly though.

    Great list! x

    Michelle
    dressingwithstyle-s.com

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    1. Hope you had the best time when you visited, you get used to the cold over here!

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  6. This is such a lovely post! A big YES to number 3, Reese's will forever be the best. Couldn't agree more that life is too short to be negative, I try and stay optimistic whenever I can. I hope you have an amazing birthday! Look forward to reading more x

    Evie x | https://eviejayne.co.uk/

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    1. How ironic is it that as I read this comment, I'm actually sat here eating Reese's!

      Thank you for the birthday wishes, I had a really lovely day (:

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  7. Number 15 is so true! Good things happen in threes! :D

    chloexlizabeth.blogspot.co.uk <3

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    1. SO TRUE, although I always worry that things go wrong in three's as well haha.

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  8. I adore this post and I feel like just from reading this list, you and I would be really great pals! A lot of these points really scream out to me that you're a grateful, nice and moral person and I love that. In my opinion, one of the most important things is just to be nice and understanding of people and situations as it's so simple but can really change so much in a positive way for you or the other person. It can be so daunting getting older but don't be sad, you sound like a very wise and lovely person and I hope you have a fabulous birthday!
    Alice Xx

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    1. That's so sweet and I'm so glad you feel like that!

      Thank you for all the kind words, it's overwhelming to read and it means more than you know. I had a really great birthday, thanks!

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  9. I loved reading this post, and have found many of these to be true for me as well- in particular, number 14; I always felt inadequate when I was younger for only having a few close friends, but now I realise that it tends to be for the better!

    Gabija x
    everylittlethingblog.weebly.com

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  10. I think this post is very relatable even though I'm only turning 23 this year. I think it's a good idea to make a list like this - it helps you realise the good things. I only didn't get 'Everything comes in 3s' ? What does that mean? haha :)

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    1. It means that I believe when one thing goes wrong, it will happen two more times as well. I'm not really sure why, I'm just superstitious I guess!

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  11. What a wonderful list! We really have to make our time on earth worth it and I think a lot of our ideas lean towards that thought! Thanks for sharing xx
    Alys
    https://alysjournals.com/

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    1. From one Alys to another, thank you! So pleased you enjoyed reading it (:

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  12. I love all of these :) Very very true! xo

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  13. This is such a good list Alys! I love number 14 and everytime I visit London I do fall in love with it... and number 22, about things always getting better - ahh i love that! I love being able to look back on a moment when everything was going terribly knowing that it did get better after all,even if you believe it never will at the time! Great post:) x

    Anne // www.basifpa-and-did.co.uk

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    1. London really is so easy to fall in love with isn't it, there is so much to see!

      So happy to read that you enjoyed it (:

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  14. I'm about to be 26 also in 8 days... I feel so.. strange �� i don't want to grow up! Embracing who I am is one I have learned as well, as it makes being happy with your life so much easier! Always trust your instincts is a good one. Love this xx

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    1. You know exactly how I feel then! I don't know about you, but being 26 isn't as bad as I thought it would be!

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  15. God... these are all things I feel deeply. I'm 24 right now and feel 25 approaching quickly... I'll be right in the middle of too far from 20 but am I really closer to 30? Gosh... this is nuts. But I'm embracing it. Life doesn't end at 30.

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    1. Life really goes by in a blink of an eye doesn't it, just wish we could slow it down!

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  16. I can definitely relate to the concept of change & growing as a person and managing other commitments like a social life etc. being a bit of a juggling mess - but usually managing it all comes with time :)

    I’ve recently been thinking of going back to old content that I don’t relate to anymore/ when I was in the beginning still finding my writing style.

    Something that took me about 4 years of university to do was to embrace who I was and my personality - in high school I was rather quiet but now I’m more bubbly and probably won’t ever stop talking haha

    Love this post!

    Sahara
    http://saharas-dreams.blogspot.com

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    1. That's so great to hear that you embraced who you were in University, it definitely opens up a whole new world of experiences!

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  17. Yes, yes, yes. All such great points. Especially 14 and 23. Travelling in your own lane, trust your own instincts, we all have different timelines and DON'T compare are some of the biggest things I've learnt in the last few years. And I'd take a handful of ride or die real friends over dozens of 'friends' who are only good for liking an insta post any day! Great post x

    Sophie
    www.glowsteady.co.uk

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    1. Thank you Sophie, so glad you enjoyed it and could relate to some of the points I made!

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  18. Love the lessons you've learned in the last 25 years! I totally agree with a lot of these - like it's ok to accept compliments. Don't put yourself down in front of others (or at all). YES - life IS too short to be negative! Let's make the most out of it :).

    Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me

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    1. Exactly Nancy! Life it too short to be anything but happy in who we are X

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  19. Great post! I’m 25, 26 in September (really dreading it!) and can definitely relate to a lot of these. Apart from London, I hate London. But the family one I’ve defintiely recognised so much lately.

    Jenny
    http://www.jennyinneverland.com

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    1. No way, I guess London isn't always for everything as it is a very hectic place to be. Hope you had a lovely birthday!

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  20. Such a beautiful and uplifting post! I love and the points you've touched on, I'm not 25 yet so I'm so proud of myself for learning some of these things and being able to relate to this. I def believe in second chances, it's a chance at redemption that can be beneficial. And omg trusting your gut is def something I've learnt the hard way but absolutely believe in. Great post hun! Cheers to more lessons being learnt and more stories to tell. :D

    xx Lena | https://lenadeexo.com

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    1. Here's to another great 25 years! It's not so bad being this age is it after all!

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  21. love this idea of a blog post! The first one "Embrace who you are and never shy away from that" I absolutely love, I also love the one about never giving up! I have to disagree with London being the best City though, far too busy! haha xx
    https://lifeofshar.co.uk/

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    1. Thank you, that's so lovely to hear you say and I'm glad you enjoyed reading it (:

      London is just the best as there is so much to see!

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  22. This is lovely. I'm turning 20 y/o this July and I will keep this all in mind. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Happy birthday for July, the 20's are the best you will love it!

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  23. I can totally relate to eveything you have mentioned, especially having quality relationships! The older you get, the harder it is to make those meaning connections with people! I love your attitude, and hope you have the best year! ��
    https://beaulife.org

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    1. Finding friends who live in your area and are just like you can be so hard to find as we get older, but having fewer friends who get you and make you happy will always be better than a room full of people who make you feel small!

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  24. Great post! I definitely need to work on 1 and 6. I always feel so awkward when I get compliments in real life. I feel like I want to hide. lol

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    1. It's so hard isn't it not to feel this way, I would always look at the person like they were taking the mick, but not I just turn and smile thanks, and simply don't care if they're being sarcastic or not!

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  25. love this! such a lovely read and so many great things to think about

    http://www.claresloves.com/

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